The winds of change are blowing through my front door, down the hall, to the second floor and out the back. My oldest son graduates from high school in just a few days and the youngest got his driver’s license this past weekend. Both are following that wind, right on out of the house, on to friends, colleges, adventures. The tears well as I write this.
As I contemplate the situation of their departing figures, I wonder-how do the parents of all our brides and grooms watch their children go down the aisle, off to another life, and let go?
Each ceremony pretty much goes the same-we line the bridal party up, Mom kisses her daughter and, with head high, goes off down the aisle. The maids go next-they are usually nervous about departing at the proper time and are waiting for the “go” signal. Then there is Dad and the bride. This is the time it gets dicey, it’s just them, we try to joke around to keep the air light. That works sometimes, but not always-dads cry, daughters comfort. I usually have to turn away. Then it’s time-the bride gets her dress pouffed on last time and off to a new life she goes. Dad gives her hand to the groom.
I’ve done hundreds of weddings, I get emotional at most. To all you parents who keep those smiles on, who may have a few tears roll down your checks but don’t sob and remember what your gaining, not what your losing-you have my total respect!
How do all those parents do that and how am I going to let go graciously? Maybe it’s because we have done our main job as parents-raised our kids to be good adults. We know, even though we may not want to let go of their hands, that they are ready for the next step. We must move aside and let them follow their own life’s trail-who knows what treasures they may find!